What if, assuming we all have two minds a conscious and an unconscious mind, the conscious mind has the dementia symptoms but the unconscious mind doesn't!
The conscious mind is what we are aware of and it steers and guides us, setting outcomes and deciding directions.
The conscious mind is also critical of suggestion.
So, if you want to make sure that your suggestions to someone are taken on board, then it is best to communicate with the unconscious mind.
The unconscious (mind) is everything that is not conscious. It is a container for different thoughts, feelings, emotions, resources and possibilities that we are not paying attention to at any one time. When you switch your attention then they become conscious.
Each mind hasn't a different role and speaks a different language, so to speak. So how do we communicate and have rapport with each mind?
We have discovered that although someone with dementia may be anxious, fearful and confused it is the conscious mind that has these chalenges but the unconscious mind is open for good communication.
So how do you communicate with someone's unconscious mind?
Our work with NLP and Hypnosis provides the missing link to communication with the unconscious. Join us on one of our trainings and we show you how to really communicate with your love one!
The Conscious and Unconscious Minds
The vast majority of our mental processing is at the unconscious level. With the exception of a few rare individuals, the conscious mind has an upper limit of about nine streams of information that it can track simultaneously. For most of us the limit is somewhere between five and seven. We therefore speak of the conscious mind being able to process 7± 2 information streams at a time.
The unconscious mind, on the other hand, tracks millions of bits of data every second, and does so effortlessly. One thing it does is to pass information to or withhold information from the conscious mind. In other words, the conscious mind has access to unconscious mind activity only if the unconscious mind grants it that permission.
A key goal of Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is to bring about a full collaboration between the conscious mind and the unconscious mind so that they work together rather than stage a turf war.
Conscious Mind Role
The conscious mind is the digital side of thinking, meaning that the conscious mind subjects every thing it processes to a logic test. Is this statement true? Or is it false? Is what I'm experiencing logical? Or is it irrational? The conscious mind is logic-driven.
As we have said, the conscious mind is also the realm of immediate awareness. Or to put it another way, if the conscious mind is oblivious to a stimulus or input, it is as though that sitmulus or input does not exist.
In addition, the conscious mind is the locus for reflective review of what we experience (or have experienced). Here we explore our options and make deliberative choices about how we will respond to emotional and sensory experience.
Unconscious Mind Role
When repeatedly told by the conscious mind that a certain thing is true, the unconscious mind will start to act accordingly. It will muster its resources to align with the judgments of the conscious mind. If the conscious mind regularly says that all black dogs are dangerous, the unconscious mind will obligingly provide a fear response that fires off automatically whenever a black dog comes into view.
In effect, the unconscious mind "frees up" the conscious mind to specialize as a discriminator. The unconscious mind takes care of the "clutter" that would otherwise impede quick judgments and the exercise of discretion. To view this another way, the unconscious mind manages all those things that do not need conscious awareness.
Thus, while the conscious mind is busy reflecting on what is happening, the unconscious mind is quietly regulating body temperature, breathing rhythms, heartbeats, and the myriad of other physiological functions essential to survival. It is also alertly monitoring and responding to external events that must be tended to, even though they may not call for conscious attention at the moment.
For instance, if you are taking notes during a phone conversation with someone who is upset, all your conscious energies may be concentrated on what the other party is saying and how to frame your reply. Meanwhile, you are jotting down notes almost automatically, because the unconscious mind is translating ideas into notations on the page without you consciously thinking about the process.
Just because we are inattentive to what the unconscious mind is doing, howerver, does not mean that its activities are of subordinate importance. At any given moment the unconscious mind is regulating more of our physiology than is the conscious mind. As a result, the unconcious mind is a primary determinant of behavior.
NLP uses these external behavioral clues to see beyond conscious mind activity to the processes running at the unconscious level.
Communicating with the Unconscious
We are always communicating wth both the conscious and unconscious mind but normally we are not aware of it and not aware of how poor our communication is. For example the unconscious does not understand a negative and prefers more indirect communication like stories and metaphors.
Using the genius of Dr Milton H Erickson and his work on trance and conversational hypnosis we can make a real difference to working woith people with dementia.
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