"Raising new questions and possibilities, or looking at old problems from a new angle requires a creative imagination and marks the real advances in science." Albert Einstein
When assumptions are changed or dropped, problems are systematically transformed in creative ways . First list them. Then change or drop them. Here's an example:
You are not getting along with your lover and don't know what to do. Some of the assumptions you have been making are that
- You must stay together.
- You discuss and ask for changes, but do not specify consequences.
- You are the organized, planning partner. The other is more spontaneous.
- You dislike emotional, "out of control" scenes, raising your voice, etc.
Dropping, or changing these assumptions suggests some interesting options. Leave! Leave if specified changes do not occur within a specific period of time. Stop your planning role and start being more unpredictable. Yell and scream to get attention. Ask the other person to yell and scream and get it out,... maybe over.