Self-Management and Emotional Freedom
New ways of being


About the Programme

The most important question to ask yourself is:

What state do I want to be in to make the most of what is happening and what state will help me get what I want in this situation?

Then ask: What can I do to produce that state?

NLP gives us choice and some tools to deal with the negative states and create more of those we value - happiness, fun, love, safety and health. A state is your way of being at any moment - the sum of your thoughts, feelings, emotions, mental and physical energy. Your emotional state affects your body and how you use the body affects your emotions.

So, what can you do to choose your state rather than be pushed into one? The place to start is your habitual state, where you spend the most time. Is it healthy, comfortable and balanced? If you become very used to one state it can seem to be the only one to be in, instead of just one of many possible choices. We often model states and take them on when we're young and forget they are not really us.

When you track your emotional state throughout the day you'll notice you return to some favourite, habitual states often. Our state shifts and changes, sometimes at random, sometimes as a reaction to what happens. This is fine when things are going well but when they are not, day-to-day living, people and events, may get on our nerves, we may get depressed, bored, irritable, or miserable and experience little choice in the matter.

Seldom do we deliberately put ourselves in the particular state we want to be in . Why not? Because as a general idea that moods are not under our personalised control but moods and states are reactions to others. When did you last ask yourself: I wonder what state I'd like to be in now? And then proceed to enter it. Wouldn't this be a useful skill.

You already have all the resouces you need

You will learn how to

  • maintain a resourceful state in yourself (and others)
  • how the mind and body are part of the same system
  • the art of anchoring - stacking, chaining, collapsing
  • use spatial anchors
  • pace and lead someone to a more resourceful state

For more information on New Oceans services contact
New Oceans House, 39 Jennings Road, St Albans Herts AL1 4NX
Tel: 01727 869782 Fax: 01727 842181
Email: [email protected]