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As she watched her man sitting back in his armchair, with his legs stretched out in front of him, can of Stella in his hand, absorbed in the Athletics on the telly, she marvelled at how he could do that!

How, with all the problems he had at work right now, he could ‘switch off’, seem to stop thinking, worrying, and just BE!

“It’s not as if he’s stupid”, she said to herself. “He’s a clever man - he’s got a good head on his shoulders. He always thinks things through. Sometimes it’s even as if he’s not with us at all, like he can get right into some other place, where he doesn’t feel, or react emotionally. Where he just works things out logically”

She looked at him, as his eyes stared at the screen. “ I’d like to be inside his head right now”, she mused. “Find out how he does it”.

He watched the two men running, leading the Marathon, each one totally into his individual race. He wondered how they could do that - be carrying out a mental strategy, a plan, yet expressing it so brilliantly, physically? At least, he THOUGHT they must have a pre-race plan - he certainly would, and he wouldn’t STOP thinking, all the way round.

But what was going through Baldini’s mind while he was running? He seemed to be responding instinctively to the Swiss guy’s unexpected challenge, as if he just trusted that his body knew what to do.

“So when will the Italian kick for home?”, he wondered. “How will he decide? Is he thinking about that, or will his body just KNOW again? And will there be any clue that he’s about to do it?”

At that moment, he noticed Baldini taking a deep breath - and suddenly he was three metres ahead, and still pulling away. “Wow!”, he thought admiringly. “Look at that! Now THAT’S what I call guts…….. and gut instinct! As if his body had a mind of its own, and just sensed that was the moment to go for it! I wish I could find out how he does it, so I could be like that - trust my instincts, be totally ‘out there’, instead of stuck inside my own head, always thinking, or making myself consciously NOT think!”

She watched him watching, noticed his fingers began to play on the beercan, as if running to the rhythm of the champion about to cross the line.

“I wonder if he’s even aware he’s doing it”, she thought. “Maybe some part of him believes it’ll make him more physical himself!” And she laughed quietly, affectionately, as the cheering came from the Swedish stadium.

“How funny we all are - all wanting to be like someone else!”

She went into the kitchen, to start getting the tea. He always liked to eat early, and it pleased her to please him. She was really looking forward to getting back to the romantic book she was reading, yet it made her feel happy to be needed.

“I suppose I just love him”, she thought, as she turned on the oven.


How to stay stressed?

NEVER EXERCISE - Exercise wastes a lot of time that could be spent worrying.

EAT ANYTHING YOU WANT - Hey, if cigarette smoke can't cleanse your system, a balanced diet isn't likely to.

GAIN WEIGHT - Work hard at staying at least 25 pounds over your recommended weight.

TAKE PLENTY OF STIMULANTS - The old standards of caffeine, nicotine, sugar, and cola will continue to do the job just fine.

AVOID "WOO-WOO" PRACTICES LIKE NLP - Ignore the evidence suggesting that meditation, yoga, deep breathing, and/or mental imaging help to reduce stress. The Protestant work ethic is good for everyone, Protestant or not.

GET RID OF YOUR SOCIAL SUPPORT SYSTEM - Let the few friends who are willing to tolerate you know that concern yourself with friendships only if you have time, and you never have time. If a few people persist in trying to be your friend, avoid them.

PERSONALIZE ALL CRITICISM - Anyone who criticizes any aspect of your work, family, dog, house, or car is mounting a personal attack. Don't take time to listen, be offended, then return the attack!

THROW OUT YOUR SENSE OF HUMOUR - Staying stressed is no laughing matter, and it shouldn't be treated as one.

MALES AND FEMALES ALIKE - BE MACHO - Never ever ask for help, and if you want it done right, do it yourself!

BECOME A WORKAHOLIC - Put work before everything else, and be sure to take work home evenings and weekends. Keep reminding yourself that vacations are for sissies.

DISCARD GOOD TIME MANAGEMENT SKILLS - Schedule in more activities every day than you can possibly get done and then worry about it all whenever you get a chance.

PROCRASTINATE - Putting things off to the last second always produces a marvellous amount of stress.

WORRY ABOUT THINGS YOU CAN'T CONTROL - Worry about the stock market, earthquakes, global warming, you know, all the big issues.

BECOME NOT ONLY A PERFECTIONIST BUT SET IMPOSSIBLY HIGH STANDARDS... and either beat yourself up, or feel guilty, depressed, discouraged, and/or inadequate when you don't meet them.




What level are you on?

e.g. Diabetes. This is not a noun but a nominalisation, a process. If ,instead of saying “I am diabetic”, which puts it at Identity level and makes it harder to shift, one says “At the moment I am experiencing diabetes”, that puts it down much lower, at Behaviour level. Then it becomes a process which has a beginning middle and end, and is therefore much easier to change.


At 14 I gave a speech on behalf of a leprosy charity. Wondered what it was like. Always have to experience, find out for myself, ‘test run’ things. Felt guilty, a fraud, giving such an impassioned speech when I was healthy.

I find it difficult to let my anger show; feel guilty all the time, don'tunderstand why. Angry with myself.......

I’m livid…..anger is the colour of psoriasis.

My mother always rells me

"You're too senmsitive you'd better develop a thicker skin!"

It’s a gestalt….a series of guilt episodes, yet still looking ‘normal’ – appearances are dece

ptive – make the outside match the ‘ugly’ inside.


Perhaps they have no critical driver submodality, so ‘multi-screen’ cannot be controlled or differentiated hierarchically. TV/computer games, multi-screen – we are selective because of our submodality drivers. ADD etc possibly don’t have this control, so all internal screens stay on at the same levels of submodalities all the time.

Ritalin works by closing them all down except for one, blanking out the other screens but also the creativity. NLP is definitely the better option! Because it GIVES options and control of all the pictures.

Visual submodality control (i.e. direction) by spelling backwards, gives not only the skill of spelling, but also a sense of being able to control their own mind.

It is also possible that they have no ANALOGUE critical driver submodality, but do have a DIGITAL c/d sm., which is only on or off. If we can turn that into a slider instead of a switch, we can help them have more choice.

Crohn’s Disease/IBS………………

anally retentive.

Inner team conflict…………one part likes danger,excitement, another ‘can’t stomach it’. The person seems to make contradictory statements, or is ‘full of crap’!


Cleaning Up You Act - Part 5


I remember when my Sarah Jane told me she was pregnant - I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry; to me she was still only a baby herself! Just twenty years old! And she’d always been such a quiet one.. We thought she’d never have the courage to even talk to a boy, let alone, well, you know what I mean……!

But maybe, when you meet the right person, it doesn’t need courage, or even words:- a look, a smile in a special way, and you just know inside. As my mother used to tell me

“Minnie darling, when it’s the one, your hearts will say everything you need to hear!”

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